FR: 22/23rd February '08 [nightgame]

FRIDAY
I like to write my mentalities to go out with so I know what I should be thinking.

Here's what I got:

Pure Fun
Speak to everyone
306 – Chat to girls -- 306 because I have 306 posts on the RSD forum.

NIGHTGAME

Ok here’s how it went.

In 4^th Avenue (our local bar/club, name changed for privacy).

HB_Cute_Neutral. (1 approach)

It’s a friend of a friend and I’ve never spoken to her. This girl is so cute. Her eyes are gorgeous. She was dancing near me and I saw her looking at me a couple of times I think so I opened her and said “you’re so cute, I just had to tell you”. I lead her over to get a photo. She’s open and receptive yet very neutral. I asked her if she gets guys saying that all the time, just for my curiosity. She said yes, not good. Whatever, got the approach done.

HB_Boobs (half an approach)

A girl walking down the hall bit says “ohh my boobs” to her friend but pretty loudly so as a guy I turned around like *did someone say boobs*, I didn’t say this. She noticed, I turn back around walking back, she says I’m not allowed to do that in a kind of flirty way. As we’re walking I come back with, “what you gonna do, spank me”.. She says she’ll batter me (what the fuck, hah). I say “you probably would as well”. I realise after it wasn’t that good of a response. I meant it like ‘you’re the type of girl who’d batter someone ‘cause you don’t know how to flirt properly’ in a jokey way but it can be taken both ways (ooh matron!). She ends up saying “I have a boyfriend” as I walk off and laugh, I thought it interesting how she brought the b/f up when I didn’t mention anything.

HB_Ginga (half an approach)

I guessed her name right, it was a 50/50 chance because she has a twin. This is basically a warm approach, I don’t like counting this but I counted it as HALF an approach and combined with HB_Boobs, I guess it’s 1. I try saying something about good guess. She’s a bit cold on me but she was staring for me to come approach, I think. One good thing about this was I lead her to get a picture with me, social proof boost I don’t know if she wanted it or not. She was on her own for a while so I opened her.

My buddy Cory was being a dick as expected, he just tells everyone to fuck off and gives them the Vs. Although he was slapping girls asses and getting everyone reacting to him which is interesting and something to learn from. A few girls seemed to enjoy it as well. DJ was telling him to calm down and the bouncer had a word with him. He was being a prick and I ignored him several times. He’s barred for a while. Spoke to him after and he regrets it, lol he’s going to cut down, hopefully. He can open girls when he’s drunk but that’s it. He wont open sober. He’s a good mate when he’s not pissed out his head. His strong point is that he doesn’t care that much and demonstrates this. Mine is that I am more understanding but both can be seen as weak and strong.

Unlike many other times, I didn’t get pissed off with myself. I walked home kind of neutral but glad I got approaches done. I danced most of the night away by myself with Joe (Shyish) and Jack (Fun alpha guy) who are in my social circle.

SATURDAY

Self-amusement.

I went to 4^th Ave and my mate was supposed to meet me. It was packed as hell and so early, I couldn’t believe how busy it was. Cory wasn’t there, I was by my self feeling a bit out of place and my voice wasn’t projecting well at the bar, it was loud as fuck. I spoke to Kyle who I know vaguely. Stood by bar on his own so I go near him. He is a bit creepy, there was a point when I shout his name and snaps his head around fast, slow down your movements guys. We spoke a bit. HB_EX came right near me at the bar facing away, I wasn’t going to talk to her because we hadn’t spoke the past couple of times, . I did some body rocking like as if I was about to go. I had a KNOWING SMIRK on my face thinking she’d talk to me. We kind of looked at each other at the same time. She said “hey Travis!” we hugged. I say “are you not ignoring me now” playfully. I realised, not the best response but whatever. I ask her if she got her car, she says a bit about it. Cool. She says see you later. I text her later and she’s like “who’s this”, I did text her back at the end of the night but I’m not going to bother responding to that anymore. Our buddy Ryan came over, I cut thread – “STEVE!!!”. Grabbed the attention, riffed about Cory for a bit (about last night). Cory phones me, I find out Cory is barred from there because of last night, bastard. I tell those guys I’m off, laters. We go to some other venues… for a change.

We Go to some small place, pretty busy (I’ll call it Govz). Me and Cory grab drinks and go over to one place being wallflowers. Some girls come near me and Cory. Girl stands right near me

HB_NeutralBrunette (1 approach)

OH I WONDER IF SHE WANTS ME TO CHAT HER UP. OF COURSE SHE DOES. SHE’S STOOD NEAR ME AND ALL OF HER FRIENDS ARE ON THE OTHER SIDE. It was weird how they just came over like that, I was thinking what the fuck is going on here. I ask her if upstairs is a toilet or dance floor. I think I see her checking me out a couple of times, I believe in my head she’s attracted and still think she was but I’ll open and she’ll be pretty boring. I know I’ve seen her somewhere before but I don’t mention it because it seems to show too much interest or sounds like some line to me. I do talk to her a bit but she’s kind of shy, neutral and boring. I should have talked to her friends, I bet she wouldn’t have been so boring then. I realised this after. I have to work on opening groups of girls, get a bit of competition between them and social proof. Social proof is massive.

We check the place out, chode about again by ourselves and then go to another place.

We get to this other place we’ll call Davez.

I speak to Jane and Samantha when they arrive. We’re at different tables. I know Jane is attracted to me, she’s persistent. Her friend Sam is quite cute. Jane texts me while I’m with Cory saying we look lonely (which we were) so I text them back saying to come over then. She sends one back saying why so I say because we’re lonely. They’re going some place in town. I don’t really want to go with them, maybe we should have.

Sam felt a bit uncomfortable (she doesn’t really know us that well) but she was cool after a while, I said “are you Sam” then Jane kept talking to us and that and Sam started joining in. Sam was quite cool. We saw a celeb’, they didn’t notice him so when I pointed him out, they started screaming and I found that hilarious. I told them to go chat him up. It would have been interesting to see that. We talked a bit and it was cool, conversation flowing normally, not pissed hah. They try getting us to go town, we don’t end up going. We get photos of each other, do silly poses and I talk a bit and I’ve got rapport with Jane. Cool.

We go back to Govz and that HB-NeutralBrunette is there again. Me ‘n Cory sit down and this girl sits next to me, I think I talk to her again but I am not one for plowing in conversation so I stop and look away. Cory looks at me like “what’s he gonna do”. I noticed and smirk. When I look away and stop trying.. She her arm over me. Weird. Maybe she’s using me to get some guy jealous or something, he starts talking to her.

Even though we have next to zero social proof, I see girls checking me out a lot that night. I’ve realised looks are more important that I thought they were.

Quite a realisation lately is wear a cool pair of shoes, jeans and a shirt. Check out my fashion post.

So 303 approaches to go, girls only and COLD APPROACHES. Seems impossible to me but I’m doing it anyway, no excuses. I’m loving this blog thing as well.

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Why 306 approaches?

I had been posting on Real Social Dynamics a lot and was being a keyboard jockey and Jack Diesel (I think) posted and said to open 306 girls. That is how many posts I have on there, as of writing this. I cannot post on there until I have done the approaches. I must have more approaches than posts. I am recording the amount on the notes part on my phone. I will see how far I have come by the time I've done all the approaches.

The opener I will be trying to use is 'who are you', instead of 'what's your name'. I have been using 'what's your name' a bit in the past and it is weaker than 'who are you'.

I haven't been doing as well as I could have been doing but I have done a few which is great. I record my interactions in my journal on Word. I'm going to write an article about keeping a journal also because it's a great idea.

I went out on Friday and Saturday last week. The names and places, obvious details will be changed for privacy reasons.

FR: 22/23rd February '08 [nightgame]

What is your body language saying?

You might be unaware of this but your body language may be causing people to see you as lazy, boring, unapproachable and sad or even depressed.

We all know the majority of communication is non-verbal. I’m just going to go through some basics off the top of my head as I think of them.

When you look on the internet for openers, routines and lines to start or use in a conversation to make it fun or easy for both of you – the people writing those assume you have already confident, open and cool body language. It's hard for some people because they are so unaware of it but it all comes with practice. Small chunk what you read here and work on it until you think you have it down. If you fall back in to old habits then work on it until you do it unconsciously. We have a lot of unconscious bad habits, it's about becoming conscious of them and then rewiring it in your neurology so it's normal for you and everything works in your favour at an unconscious level.

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Fashion - fix up look sharp

Is your fashion down? No? Fix it. Get girls to help or anyone who has any fashion sense. Clothes should fit. Don’t get baggy stuff. Some guys wear what they’ve always worn and never changed because their mum bought the clothes or they’ve always got the same stuff and probably went to the same shop. Find something that stands out and gets you noticed, doesn’t have to be drastic. It gives girls an excuse or reason to start talking to you. So fix up, look sharp!

Get a good haircut that suits you. Experiment with it. Don’t be afraid to dye it different colours, let it grow or shave it all off. Gay guys and women hairdressers typically have an eye for what looks good so get their opinion. Take before and after photos. If you like the after photos then you can use them when you next go back to get it cut.

You wont admit this anyway but if you aren’t brushing your teeth, you need to make it a daily habit. If they’re yellow or anything go get them whitened. Whitened teeth are attractive.

Facial hair. Get something that looks good. Some suit facial hair, some don’t. Try for yourself and see how people notice you or what people say. Get opinions if you have to.

You’ll probably need to get outside of your comfort zone if you’re upgrading the wardrobe. This is where I am now. I have some cool stuff but still could do with a cool pair of trainers and jeans. A nice pair of white trainers is cool (no Nike) and goes well with many other clothes.

Keep quality over quantity in mind also with the clothes you’re buying. I’m loving these t-shirts with crystals on. Seemed gay to me before – my mate would be obsessed with fashion and get this stuff. But shows you have some fashion sense and are not afraid of standing out.

Just a nice pair of black shoes. They make you look the bizz.

Another thing I think I've been doing which isn't good is not having too much colour. Be colourful, It shows your not afraid to express yourself. Most people just wear black, I do. It's really common so stand out.

Take a look at fashion magazines, on TV (Hollyoaks!) and observe people when you’re out. Go shopping with friends that are fashionable.

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Who's Travis Bickle?

Good question.

I'm a student living in the UK. I'm a pretty good looking guy who hasn't been that successful with the ladies, yet hasn't been too bad. I have had a couple of girlfriends, nothing serious. I have snogged a lot of girls when I was younger, that was great but nothing serious and I was too pussy to escalate in any way, even getting phone numbers or anything. I was quite reserved socially and not that confident. I'm confident in many situations and know I still have a long way to go. I don't want to give too much away about myself, but do feel free to ask.

This is my blog where I post ONLINE about what goes on in my life.

My blog will be focused more on pick-up, seduction, dating, social dynamics and stuff like that.

At the time of writing this I am by no means a top 'pick up artist'. I do not even care for that title, however I do study pick-up. My head is filled with theory and I have been going out regularly but I am not one for 'sarging'. Sarging as in going out for the sole purpose of picking up girls. Picking up girls is a side thing.

I am just posting my journey for fun. I love blogging. I have been journalling something in Word for over 30 days every day which is really helpful in objectifying and analysing my game. I just wanna get it out there online.

I'll be as honest as I can be and hope you guys can comment, offer suggestions, feedback; all that good stuff.

Also, I will post tips, ideas, beliefs, mindsets etc stuff like that as they come up.


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